With the Independence holiday coming fast on us. I would like to thank each of those who serve this great country each and every day. The military and their family’s are number one on this list. Yet, all those that serve are thanked as well. The waitresses that work all the shifts to feed hungry truckers, police, emergency workers and traveling families. The railroad workers working no matter what the conditions to deliver the hundreds of loads. The parking lot sweeper driver that sucks up the nails, screws and bolts that can damage our truck tires. The farmers for growing all the great food we eat. The line workers for working in blizzards to provide us power to not only pump our fuel, but so fuel can be made. Lets not forget the emergency room workers. Not just the doctors, all those that support the system. The police, fire and tow truck operators that show up in the worst weather to help. The truck stop workers that even on Christmas Day come to work to serve their customers. The list is long. We all offer something to the overall sprocket that drives this chain called a country.
While some will be spending time with the family or friends this holiday. Many will not. I would like to stress the importance for us truck drivers to take; me time. Its really easy to go trucking for weeks or months straight. If you have a family at home you normally want to provide and that is understand Yet, even if you are a single person. You really need to consider me time. Spending a month at time out on the road living pay check to paycheck. Is not a life. It may seem like one, but where are you going? Many forget that we work to live not live to work. We go to work. Do our jobs safe and well so we can get paid to have a life out side of work. Maybe its have a home with the family, maybe its having a nice fishing boat, a gold mine, flying, having a show car or truck. Anything that is rewarding.
Its so easy to get wrapped up in the drive to earn money and just sped that money and basically eating it that many truckers will put 20 years over the road and have literally nothing. No paid for home, no retirement, no actually close friends, no prizes or relaxation for their hard work and dedication.
Many are shocked when they start taking a few days a year for them self or their family how much their mood changes. It very much can be the difference between happiness or depression and anger.
I recently had a client that I was life coaching that was the stereo-typical trucker. He was single, living pay check to paycheck, yet earning $62k a year as a company driver. The only friends he had were the folks he knew that drive trucks. No girlfriend. Parents are gone. His sister and he talked 2 times a year.
We talked for about a month. 1-2 times a week. He mentioned how he had to slow down as he was going to take his vacation pay and if he ran hard and got the pay it would mostly go to taxes. This got us to talking. He has been in a crappy and kind of doom and gloom mood in the month of talking to him. I asked why he dosnt just take a vacation and relax. I got the normal. Where would I go, I live in the truck, I have no money, I cant afford the week off and all the EXCUSES people make to not take me time. I explained that he would not lose any money as its a paid week off. He then pointed out that he has really no one to enjoy it with. That is a reason he used to live as a hermit and do nothing but work. I asked him what he enjoys doing. He had no real interests. He did say he was interested in leaving the country. Turns out he even had a passport. He was going to go visit some mail order bride in Russia, but that fell threw. This guys attitude was one that you could tell he wanted to talk about this and needed to get out of that truck soon. If not for his sanity, for the public’s safety.
To make a very long story short. He called me this am. He just got back home to his sisters house where he planned to spend 2 days after taking a 5 day 4 night singles cruise to the Bahamas. He sounded GREAT! (Think Tony The Tiger). He was very happy and full of life. He was also thankful. He said he spent more then he had planned. He had $800 set aside after the cruise cost of $400.00. He spent an extra $500 on his credit cards getting himself a tatoo, buying gifts for his sister and her son and extras with his new friend. His sister gave him a ride the 80 miles to the port and also let him park. his bobtail at her house. He saved $250.00 as he choose to bunk with a single straight man. This guy and he turned out to be a lot alike. They basically built a kinship. He said the first day was odd, but after that night they both found them self seeking the same thing and both kind of lost. They basically went lady hunting together and he said they hung out the entire time and helped each other back them selves up. They would go to meals together and would go sit at tables with two other ladies. Remember this is a singles cruise.
It felt great to hear the relaxation in his voice and the plans he has for the future. He is already planning to go on more singles tours and vacations with his new friend. He also got to spend time with his sister and she seemed to support his me time.
Do you take me time? I typically do a few times a year. Normally with my wife and friends. A few times a year my wife and I take mini vacations. I also take me time with my best friends out camping. No cell phones and no trucks. It sure is relaxing. Nothing but, ATV’s, coolers, fishing poles and firewood.
Life is much shorter then many think. It sneaks up on you fast. Work hard, save and play. It will keep you happy and young.vir